I was driving past a billboard on the freeway which caught my attention, enough to warrant a post. It was an advert placed by a gym and it read, ‘Invest in your body after all you can’t trade it in.’ I liked the notion that your body needs investment, in terms of time and energy to keep it healthy and well lets face it, you will be in it for as long as you live. A body, for me is an extension of my soul, a canvas if you please for my personality. Not the other way around.
So you can imagine how shocked I was when a charming woman with the most gorgeous hazel eyes and luscious curly locks seemed so self-conscious and uncomfortable. The reason, she was over weight and found the checkout lanes in the supermarket a little narrow for her comfort.
Now, I do encourage healthy living and if weight posses a health issue by all means I encourage you to diet and exercise. I recommend loosing excess pounds, in a healthy manner, but not your confidence and especially not your smile! So what if you’re lugging around a few excess kilos, cellulite, jelly belly, or whatever else seems to invert your smile.
No, I am not a size zero nor do I have a perfect body, but I know enough to not let it define me as a person. I have been there, down that road where my self-esteem was inversely proportional to my weight. I have struggled to shed 23 kilos and I am still struggling to loose that last 7 kilos to attain my healthy weight. Over the years that I have spent trying to achieve that milestone, I have learnt a lot mostly from mistakes; that beauty has nothing to do with what’s on the outside and everything to do with the inside.
A strong healthy body is more beneficial than a skinny malnourished one. As a mum of three, I need all the energy I can get and I learnt very early that strict diets that aim at rapid weight loss are an absolute no, no. I learnt to eat healthy as opposed to eating less. How were my kids, two of them girls, going to develop good eating habits when I didn’t mirror that philosophy? How could I nurture self-confidant young women if I was constantly berating myself over my excess weight? Unhealthy diets make you prone to illness and as a mum, that wasn’t an option.
Motherhood forcefully knocked some sense into me and I hope to spread the word, to aim for a healthy body as opposed to a skinny one. The media is to be blamed for showing extremely slender women as the epitome of beauty. My advice, go to an art gallery and look at how famous artists thought history depicted the goddess of beauty, Venus. Botticelli, Giorgione,
Cabanel, Moore etc. have drawn a very curvaceous and a very realistic woman. She did not have unrealistic breasts or skinny thighs, her bones did not jut out and she did not have a ripped abb. What every artist’s impression of Venus did have in common was her subtle sexy demure that came from an acknowledgement that she is beautiful; her body merely represented her conviction. Yes, men find confidant women sexy!
So next time you step out, lift your head, flash that gorgeous smile and KNOW that you are beautiful. When you see yourself in the mirror don’t smash it or cringe, try to see the beauty within. Be your own number one fan and see how everyone joins your fan club.